As children it is instilled in us to think about what we want to be when we grow up, what if even when you have grown up you still don't know? What are you supposed to do then? How are we as adults supposed to discover what it is that we want to do?
People always say, "you learn from your mistakes" and that through trial and error you grow as an individual. But what if you feel at turmoil with yourself? When you have made the mistakes, tried things through trial and error and you are still no clearer on where you want to be? Instead you are surrounded by a somewhat chaotic mess of the things you have tried but haven't worked out.
The best advice people can offer to the confused individuals is "why not focus on your hobbies, you never know one of those could become your job'. How does anyone really achieve this?
As you can tell, I am one of those people who never knew what they wanted to be when they grew up. My answers ranged from rock star to underwater archaeologist! I know the things that I am good at and I know the things which I have as hobbies, but somehow I have found myself working for an investment firm... a role which I fell into by default through my work experience and where life took me. Never ever in a million years did I think that I would end up working in investments, surrounded by information about the stock market, how people are going to invest, and how much risk they would like to take with their money. The whole concept is so far fetched to me, all I ever wanted to do was something creative!
How are we supposed to find enough joy to get us through our working days when so many of us are in environments which don't suit our personalities? We can't all pack up and decide that we want to run a bar on a beach in a far away tropical island. We also can't pack up our jobs tomorrow and just pray that our hobbies take us places. We must, by default, build our personal lives and hobbies to such a point that we become known for them to friends and family. In vain hope that a chance comment somewhere down the line from someone could lead to employment or a business idea.
Does anyone else feel a calling in life but they just can't hear the call clearly? It's a vague muffle that you know is out there but you have no idea where?
Thursday, 21 July 2016
Tuesday, 14 June 2016
You CAN do this
Everyone has those days when they just think I can't do this any more. I've had enough. Or spend their day thinking what am I doing? I can't do this! I don't have the right skills or I don't know enough. I am here to tell you that you absolutely CAN do this.
Everybody has those thoughts, everyone doubts themselves at some point, remember that even when you feel that you are completely alone, you aren't. Even in that thought pattern, someone else somewhere in the world will be feeling exactly the same way, so you aren't alone.
The problem is when you are feeling at your lowest point, or like no one can relate to you those people who feel the same, who have gone through what you're going through and come out the other side, they are no where to be seen. When all you want to do is stand in the middle of the room and scream at the top of your lungs "DOES ANYONE UNDERSTAND?!" you can't see anyone around you that looks remotely like they are going to be the one to say "I know how you feel".
Trust me those people may be closer than you think, all you need to do is have a little faith. I am a firm believer in what you put out in the world will come back to you. You need to have a little faith and trust that someone at some point will turn around and say "it's ok, I know exactly how you feel". It could be at work when you confide in a colleague, or a friend when you answer the question "are you ok?" truthfully. Or even in the most unexpected of places when you feel like you don't have anything in common with the people around you.
If you don't have the confidence to say what's really on your mind, or that you have been struggling with something recently, then my advice would be just put love in to the world. If you put love out into the world you would be amazed how much you get back. It may even be in these moments of giving a compliment that someone opens up to you and you find common ground and the reassurance that you have longingly be looking for!
If someone helps you out, or simply just does a great job have you told them? Have you paid someone a compliment recently? You would be amazed at some of the responses that you get. Even if nothing comes of it and someone just says thank you, isn't it better to have made someone feel better about themselves for the day?
Put some love out into the world, you'd be amazed at what comes back around.
And even if you don't feel like doing that, just keep plodding on, everything always happens for a reason.
.x. E
Everybody has those thoughts, everyone doubts themselves at some point, remember that even when you feel that you are completely alone, you aren't. Even in that thought pattern, someone else somewhere in the world will be feeling exactly the same way, so you aren't alone.
The problem is when you are feeling at your lowest point, or like no one can relate to you those people who feel the same, who have gone through what you're going through and come out the other side, they are no where to be seen. When all you want to do is stand in the middle of the room and scream at the top of your lungs "DOES ANYONE UNDERSTAND?!" you can't see anyone around you that looks remotely like they are going to be the one to say "I know how you feel".
Trust me those people may be closer than you think, all you need to do is have a little faith. I am a firm believer in what you put out in the world will come back to you. You need to have a little faith and trust that someone at some point will turn around and say "it's ok, I know exactly how you feel". It could be at work when you confide in a colleague, or a friend when you answer the question "are you ok?" truthfully. Or even in the most unexpected of places when you feel like you don't have anything in common with the people around you.
If you don't have the confidence to say what's really on your mind, or that you have been struggling with something recently, then my advice would be just put love in to the world. If you put love out into the world you would be amazed how much you get back. It may even be in these moments of giving a compliment that someone opens up to you and you find common ground and the reassurance that you have longingly be looking for!
If someone helps you out, or simply just does a great job have you told them? Have you paid someone a compliment recently? You would be amazed at some of the responses that you get. Even if nothing comes of it and someone just says thank you, isn't it better to have made someone feel better about themselves for the day?
Put some love out into the world, you'd be amazed at what comes back around.
And even if you don't feel like doing that, just keep plodding on, everything always happens for a reason.
.x. E
Wednesday, 1 June 2016
Time for a change
I decided a little while ago that I needed a change with my hair. Now for any woman this is can be a drastic move. Especially if like me you are growing your hair and then decide one day that enough is enough and lop it all off!
My hair was down to my bra line and I decided one day on a whim that I was done with this and so went into a hairdressers and cut it all off to shoulder length. Stupidly because this was such a spontaneous decision I didn't go to my normal hairdressers and needless to say I wasn't overly pleased with it! I have this weekend been to see my normal hairdresser to confess to my sin and have her look at it for me and see if she could correct the somewhat uneven cut I had. As always my hairdresser worked her magic and I am now really pleased with it.
Moral of the story, when you find a hairdresser you like always go there, especially when you are having a crazy moment!
My hair was down to my bra line and I decided one day on a whim that I was done with this and so went into a hairdressers and cut it all off to shoulder length. Stupidly because this was such a spontaneous decision I didn't go to my normal hairdressers and needless to say I wasn't overly pleased with it! I have this weekend been to see my normal hairdresser to confess to my sin and have her look at it for me and see if she could correct the somewhat uneven cut I had. As always my hairdresser worked her magic and I am now really pleased with it.
Moral of the story, when you find a hairdresser you like always go there, especially when you are having a crazy moment!
Tuesday, 3 May 2016
Deal of the Week - Starbucks
Hi Peeps,
Just a quick post, I have discovered a deal which is on until the 6th May which I think you may all be interested in...
Through the Starbucks app this week you are able to get 50% off your order when you order ahead, all you need is the app, some credit loaded onto it and a store which accepts pre-orders (most major branches do). I ordered a coffee and a toastie for lunch today, I got them for half price and they were ready for me as soon as I walked in!
Definitely a deal worth knowing about, also if you order for the first time through the app this week you get double points for the rest of the week on purchases. Double the points and half the cost! It's a good week for a Starbucks pre-order!
Just a super quick post got lots to do tonight. I hope you are all well, catch up properly soon.
xx
Just a quick post, I have discovered a deal which is on until the 6th May which I think you may all be interested in...
Through the Starbucks app this week you are able to get 50% off your order when you order ahead, all you need is the app, some credit loaded onto it and a store which accepts pre-orders (most major branches do). I ordered a coffee and a toastie for lunch today, I got them for half price and they were ready for me as soon as I walked in!
Definitely a deal worth knowing about, also if you order for the first time through the app this week you get double points for the rest of the week on purchases. Double the points and half the cost! It's a good week for a Starbucks pre-order!
Just a super quick post got lots to do tonight. I hope you are all well, catch up properly soon.
xx
Sunday, 10 April 2016
A blue day
Ever have one of those just unknown days that creeps up on you? You just feel a little numb and there is no rhyme or reason to it? I'm having one of those today. Absolutely no need for it I have had a really nice and relaxed weekend, but for some reason today my head is just elsewhere. I have tried to concentrate on all sorts of different things today but it's just no good.
Now I know that this makes for a fairly depressing read, after all you should know by now I am the positive one. The person that will always seek to point out the silver lining to every miserable situation or day. But today is just a 'meh' today - the best way that I can think to describe it. But I know that a lot of people know what 'meh' days feel like.
I have been doing a lot of soul searching as you all know from previous posts, but today I just feel like a little bit of a lost cause (I know right? Get the tiny violin out for me please). What is it that we should all focus on to snap us out of a funk when we get into one? Just decide that today isn't the day to face the world and go back to bed? But that would surely carry it on? Head out and try to be social - one of the things that you probably least feel like doing. So as always what is it that we revert to? An outlet of some kind, now everyone has their own, mine just happens to be creative. Hence why I am sat here writing this. Whatever your outlet be it running, singing, driving whatever it may be immerse yourself in it. The sun will always rise again tomorrow.
x
Now I know that this makes for a fairly depressing read, after all you should know by now I am the positive one. The person that will always seek to point out the silver lining to every miserable situation or day. But today is just a 'meh' today - the best way that I can think to describe it. But I know that a lot of people know what 'meh' days feel like.
I have been doing a lot of soul searching as you all know from previous posts, but today I just feel like a little bit of a lost cause (I know right? Get the tiny violin out for me please). What is it that we should all focus on to snap us out of a funk when we get into one? Just decide that today isn't the day to face the world and go back to bed? But that would surely carry it on? Head out and try to be social - one of the things that you probably least feel like doing. So as always what is it that we revert to? An outlet of some kind, now everyone has their own, mine just happens to be creative. Hence why I am sat here writing this. Whatever your outlet be it running, singing, driving whatever it may be immerse yourself in it. The sun will always rise again tomorrow.
x
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